Sunday Best – January 15, 2023

Today I went for a nice long hike in a new place, and at the summit there were lots of us taking obligatory and celebratory selfies. One couple was sitting quietly off to the side, notable because they were staring out at the view instead of down at their screens.

Sure enough, one of them soon approached and asked me to take their picture. Then he leaned in a little and said in a quiet calm voice, “I’m actually going to propose, so if you could just keep filming that would be great.”

Friends, most of you know what a terrible poker face I have, and many of you also know that I am not a gifted photographer. I am happy to report that I put in the performance of my life – the surprise was not ruined, the video was beautiful, and best of all, the answer was yes.

If I’d hiked a little faster or slower, or turned back when my knee got sore, or looked a little more grumpy at the summit, I would have missed the amazing chance to see this couple enter a new chapter together.

Dear ones, what fantastic events are unfolding all around us, unwitnessed?

What joys might we see, if we look?

Sunday Best – January 8, 2023

 

After a snowstorm last week, I was walking by the creek and overheard a parent explaining to their child that the water is always flowing under the surface, even when it seems to be frozen solid.

As if sensing the kid’s doubtfulness, little further down the path, a thin stream of clear water was bubbling through canyons of ice and snow, reminding us of unencumbered sunny days.

Sometimes life seems like one big snowstorm, beautiful but distracting, chilling some of our greatest enthusiasms.

Friends, has it been a while since we danced around the room, or made up a song, or said a foolish, earnest thing? 

As Mary Oliver asks, Are we breathing just a little, and calling it a life?

What is still flowing,

just under the surface,

ready to flow free?

 

Have You Ever Tried to Enter the Long BlAck Branches

    –  MARY OLIVER

 

Have you ever tried to enter the long black branches of other lives —
tried to imagine what the crisp fringes, full of honey, hanging
from the branches of the young locust trees, in early morning, feel like?

Do you think this world was only an entertainment for you?

Never to enter the sea and notice how the water divides
with perfect courtesy, to let you in!
Never to lie down on the grass, as though you were the grass!
Never to leap to the air as you open your wings over the dark acorn of your heart!

No wonder we hear, in your mournful voice, the complaint
that something is missing from your life!

Who can open the door who does not reach for the latch?
Who can travel the miles who does not put one foot
in front of the other, all attentive to what presents itself
continually?
Who will behold the inner chamber who has not observed
with admiration, even with rapture, the outer stone?

Well, there is time left —
fields everywhere invite you into them.

And who will care, who will chide you if you wander away
from wherever you are, to look for your soul?

Quickly, then, get up, put on your coat, leave your desk!

To put one’s foot into the door of the grass, which is
the mystery, which is death as well as life, and
not be afraid!

To set one’s foot in the door of death, and be overcome
with amazement!

To sit down in front of the weeds, and imagine
god the ten-fingered, sailing out of his house of straw,
nodding this way and that way, to the flowers of the
present hour,
to the song falling out of the mockingbird’s pink mouth,
to the tippets of the honeysuckle, that have opened

in the night

To sit down, like a weed among weeds, and rustle in the wind!

Listen, are you breathing just a little, and calling it a life?

While the soul, after all, is only a window,

and the opening of the window no more difficult
than the wakening from a little sleep.

Only last week I went out among the thorns and said
to the wild roses:
deny me not,
but suffer my devotion.
Then, all afternoon, I sat among them. Maybe

I even heard a curl or two of music, damp and rouge red,
hurrying from their stubby buds, from their delicate watery bodies.

For how long will you continue to listen to those dark shouters,
caution and prudence?
Fall in! Fall in!

A woman standing in the weeds.
A small boat flounders in the deep waves, and what’s coming next
is coming with its own heave and grace.

Meanwhile, once in a while, I have chanced, among the quick things,
upon the immutable.
What more could one ask?

And I would touch the faces of the daisies,
and I would bow down
to think about it.

That was then, which hasn’t ended yet.

Now the sun begins to swing down. Under the peach-light,
I cross the fields and the dunes, I follow the ocean’s edge.

I climb, I backtrack.
I float.
I ramble my way home.

 

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And here is our latest Honeybee Book List!  

Sadly, this week marks the passing of Edith Pearlman, whose work has featured in prior Honeybee book recommendations. Her story collections Honeydew and Binocular Vision are absolute treasures.

Sunday Best – January 1, 2023 !

 

This new year’s practice is one of Honeybee’s most requested, so we share a reprise here, with best wishes for a plentiful year to come.

“And now we welcome the new year,

full of things that have never been.”  

         – RM Rilke

Like many people, my year end used to be shadowed by “should’ves”. I would reflect on resolutions from years past, and instead of feeling great about all that had transpired, I’d end up focusing on the leftover items on the list – work un-done, trips un-taken, marathons un-run.

Then, a few years ago, I tried flipping this process around. I spent an hour reviewing my calendar from the past twelve months, noting all of the things I was glad to have done. Some entries – family reunions, long-anticipated vacations, big professional events – naturally were already top of mind. But what surprised me were the smaller moments that jumped out – afternoon tea with a long-lost friend, a free evening to read a whole novel in one big gulp, a blissful autumn hike.

I looked at the calendar for the coming year, with all of its promising white space, and started gleefully filling it up, based on my joyful list from the year before. I added placeholders for some big things, like those trips and family events…

and then I stopped.

Because I also wanted to protect the ability to have that tea, or read that book, or visit that relative. Against all of my natural tendencies to over-plan, I wanted to intentionally leave a bit more blank space. It turns out that “carpe diem” does not actually mean, “schedule each moment, squash it all in.” As we look ahead, we have a chance to choose not just more, but different. Better.

Dear friends, as this fresh new year dawns, I wish you the joys of plans well made, and the joys of spacious surprises. May both be plentiful.

 

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In case you missed it during the holidays, here is our winter book list!

Honeybee Book List – Winter 2022

Sunday Best – December 25, 2022 (with book list!)

Dear friends, this week brings us winter solstice, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and Christmas, not to mention National Crossword Puzzle Day, Mathematics Day, and National Bacon Day.

Curiously, in times of great activity, with crowds at every turn, it’s easier than ever to get caught up in our individual plans and dramas, our personal joys and heartaches. Underneath the connecting and the planning and the giving, there is a current of me-ness running, sweet and precious and flawed.

For all of our me’s, a dose of David Whyte can be a blessing.

May we all recognize the dream-ladders to divinity that surround us today.

 

Everything is Waiting for You, by David Whyte

Your great mistake is to act the drama
as if you were alone. As if life
were a progressive and cunning crime
with no witness to the tiny hidden
transgressions. To feel abandoned is to deny
the intimacy of your surroundings. Surely,
even you, at times, have felt the grand array;
the swelling presence, and the chorus, crowding
out your solo voice. You must note
the way the soap dish enables you,
or the window latch grants you freedom.
Alertness is the hidden discipline of familiarity.
The stairs are your mentor of things
to come, the doors have always been there
to frighten you and invite you,
and the tiny speaker in the phone
is your dream-ladder to divinity.

Put down the weight of your aloneness and ease into the
conversation. The kettle is singing
even as it pours you a drink, the cooking pots
have left their arrogant aloofness and
seen the good in you at last. All the birds
and creatures of the world are unutterably
themselves. Everything is waiting for you.

 

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Winter 2022 Book List

In these darkest days of the year, as the holiday hubbub subsides, there is nothing like the comfort of curling up with a great book. I’m happy to share a few favorites here, a mix of new issues and old friends.

Here’s to the solstice, the return of the light!

Solstice bonus – Honeybee winter book list!

In these darkest days of the year, as the holiday hubbub subsides, there is nothing like the comfort of curling up with a great book. I’m happy to share a few favorites here, a mix of new issues and old friends.

Here’s to the solstice, the return of the light!

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